Feeling Overwhelmed?

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Sometimes we get too busy, life gets to us, and we begin feeling overwhelmed. Like the tree bark photo below, we feel peeled raw, falling apart, imperfect and unable to be the “perfect” person. But life isn’t perfect. We can’t expect everything to go smoothly — there will be bumpy roads on our journey. Here’s a poem and some resources to help you be the parent your kids need — even when you’re tired and worn out.

Tree Bark - Outdoors - Feeling Overwhelmed (poem)

Feeling Overwhelmed

Too many things to do
A To-Do list a mile long
prerequisites and tasks
left unfinished
supermom is missing.
Vanished in the night.
Maybe she never was.
The pretense of
having it all together
looms overhead
weighing down
frantic attempts
to tread water.
How to escape?
Let go of pretenses
drop the weighted ropes
pulling me down
and tiring me out.
But pride keeps me blinded.
My idealized life
doesn’t match reality.
I need to let go…
Let go of the unachievable
and begin to breathe.

Resources for When You are Feeling Overwhelmed

Here are some blog posts for when you’re feeling overwhelmed, tired, or just not good enough as a parent. Let me add, though, that these resources are no stand-in for seeking professional help if you are depressed — please, please, please, seek help. That being said, these links may be helpful for the standard everyday parent “burnout.” Links will open in a new window for your convenience.

And if you want to see more, check out my Mothering + Parenting Pinterest board:

Follow Betsy @ BPhotoArt.com’s board Motherhood + Parenting on Pinterest.

What About You? How Do You Cope With Feeling Overwhelmed?

Do you take a break when you’re feeling overwhelmed? How do you recharge? Maybe a short nap, a shower to relax, or a fun afternoon out with the family? I’d love to hear your tips for finding peace and sanity in a busy and hectic world.


8 Responses

  1. Tiffany

    First, I love the photograph. It corresponds perfectly with your topic. My Traditional Chinese Medicine doctor suggests smashing an uncooked egg. The smashing of the egg, helps you to feel a release. He suggests doing it in the shower. I can’t imagine the clean up! For me, simply looking at nature and taking deep breaths while I am alone, calms the overwhelm.

  2. Betsy Finn

    Tiffany, that sounds intriguing and as thought it would be helpful for releasing frustration and stress, although messy :). I’m with you on focusing on nature to find peace. Generally if I can get outdoors when I’m having a bad day, I will start to feel better — regardless of the weather. Must be the fresh air or something.

  3. Mae @ Mommy Loves Trees

    Never heard of the egg thing either. Nature generally works for me too. It works even better if I can get out and enjoy it by myself. Although that doesn’t happen as often as I would like.

  4. Betsy Finn

    I hear you on that, Mae. We got outside a lot this weekend as a family — and it was WONDERFUL. A 3 mile walk (balance bike ride for toddler), outdoor Easter egg hunt, and more. Even though it wasn’t all out in nature… now I’m spoiled! I love the outdoors.

  5. Barb @ A Life in Balance

    I’m so glad I clicked over to check out your post after seeing the link on my site. Several friends and I have been talking about burn out A LOT recently. In fact, we were sort of joking about having a linky party about the day we lost our …. I shared your post with them to help them, too, and I pinned it on my Words to Live by Board.

    I love your idea of carrying a camera in your purse. I think I’ll do that for the spring, and see what I come up with.

    Happy Easter!

  6. Yes, it’s so easy to get overwhelmed. I love the poem and photos. Sometimes it feels good to scribble out a to-do list like that, how cathartic!

    Thanks for sharing with Small Victories Sunday link as always. Pinned and shared!

  7. Betsy Finn

    Oh, I’m glad you did too, Barb! Glad it was helpful for you and your friends. Hope your camera carrying experiment proves inspiring for you!

  8. Betsy Finn

    Thanks Tanya. Yes, my favorite part of to-do list is getting to cross stuff off and scribble things out. Maybe that’s why I went back to a paper one after trying to use an app on my phone (not nearly as satisfying).